Rushing into a new relationship leaves no time for reflection about what went wrong , or time to reset the psyche.
The odds of a successful remarriage (or cohabitation) on her part are not great, made all the worse by the presence of two children.
I am a never-married male, 29, dating a woman of 45 who has two kids from two previous marriages.
And by the way, how long did she wait between ending each marriage and starting a new relationship?
My mom threatens to never see me again and to cut me out of her will. Having twice failed at marriage is far more serious than the age issue.
My family believes this woman is out to get me, and that I don't need someone twice-married and 16 years older. You need to make sure that a long-term relationship could stand on solid ground.
If the ex isn't co-parenting and the kids are too young to be left alone, she will have to hire a babysitter or at least have advanced planning to go out.
Money might also be tight for her, so offer to pay the sitter and definitely spring for all the other date expenses.