There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.
Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.
” Better advice when dating someone would be, “listen to the counsel of others,” or “seek to be wise in your relationships.” These phrases aren’t as cool or as much fun as “follow your heart” but in the end they will lead you to much more joy and fulfillment. From the beginning of time men and women have tried to enter into some sort of dating relationship “casually.” Where the relationship “wasn’t so defined” or where “they were just going to take it day by day.” In the end, 100% of the time, these “casual dating configurations” leave somebody hurt, because one person is more committed to the relationship than the other.
Dating doesn’t exist to have someone that you can hang out with or “make out” with on the side, dating is designed for the pursuit of marriage.
You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.
There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.
I want to suggest that we can make this whole dating thing a lot simpler and less confusing by simply holding fast to the clear, relatively few principles spelled out in Scripture. Christians Pursue Jesus Above All This is the overriding principle which must govern every relationship.
Loving Jesus first and foremost means seeking him above all else and obeying his commands above all else. Once this is set firmly in place for both individuals in the relationship, many of the other details will fall into place.
Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.
In a dating relationship don't be exclusive—care about others too. "Next, learn to put aside your own desires so that you will become patient and godly, gladly letting God have his way with you. Don't keep looking at my sins—erase them from Your sight.
This will make possible the next step, which is for you to enjoy other people and to like them, and finally you will grow to love them deeply." What to avoid on dates. "Be decent and true in everything you do so that all can approve your behavior. Create in me a new, clean heart, O God, filled with clean thoughts and right desires.
Is it just me, or has the whole Christian dating/courting/dorting thing become really, really complicated?
When Josh Harris wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye, he had good intentions.