In a series called Heartbeats on Deutschland.de, sixteen bi-national couples have shared their stories and offered advice for others in cross-cultural relationships.
We’ve compiled their advice below in this guide to bi-national relationships.
“After being married for 14 years, I came to the conclusion that what really matters is that the person you live with has an open mind for your culture and background.” –Nadia and Ted “Being open-minded and talking about possible misunderstandings is essential in a multi-cultural relationship.” -Ratna and Nele “Being in a cross-cultural relationship takes a lot of patience and tolerance, and it can take a while until one gets used to the other.
But as complicated as it might be, it is always interesting and sometimes rather funny when you get to find out and explore all the cultural differences.” -Andy and Ben “Learn the language and never compare the two countries.
“Some people think that's dangerous, I think it's a good thing – I would be really worried if we couldn't also find love online.
Hegmann agrees that there's a stereotype that access to online dating makes people less likely to work through their problems or settle on any one person, but argues that it's false.
After telling her about a relationship of mine which lasted six months, she told me that she had been with both of her two previous boyfriends for six years each.“It's all about finding structures and new ways to break those barriers.” One of the things you might be doing wrong is simply not talking to the people you'd like to get to know.“Most singles say, I'm single because I'm too shy and waiting for the other side to make the first move,” Hegmann said. They'll be grateful and honour the fact that you took a risk.” In the study, 36 percent of German men said that shyness had had a role in keeping them single – much higher than the EU average of 27 percent. Don't worry about technology stealing your love away “Dating is getting a bit different now because we are online 24/7,” Hegmann said.Germans are typically perfectionists and seem to expect this from everyone they come in contact with.Further, if you do something wrong or not by their standards they normally have no problem ridiculing you and telling you what an idiot you are.